Wednesday, January 17, 2007
Actually this was supposed to be yesterday’s post
Today was an exceptionally long day.. I had to wake up xtra early for my theatre studies lecture..anw..am I biased? I really dun fancy my ts1101e lecturer and he gives me the jitters. I dunno whether it’s his fashion sense, the snooty manner in which he speaks in or the fact that he is a diva. Which ever is why, being a timid mouse..i just feel intimidated my his mannerisms. I just feel that he fits the stereotype of what a drama or theatre teacher for that matter should be like..just minus off the fancy beret and scarf around his neck.
Well well..moving on..today’s lectures was very saturated I feel..dr suriani really makes use of the full one hour and forty five minute assigned to her..and as interested I am with what she has to say about families..i found myself having to try my very best to focus to what she was talking about..aniwei..while on my way home,I was doing my sc2205 readings..and one thing was stuck in my head..that is the glorification of marriage especially so in today’s society. And one of the reasons for this is to make marriage very appealing to today’s women. Well this is because, today’s women no longer marry to find financial support because I believe that they are more than capable to that on their own. However women tend to look for more intrinsic values when the idea of marriage pops into their head. For example, care, concern, etc etc from their partner. And more often than not, they tend to set very high standards for their perspective partners that they end up not marrying altogether. Another cause for the glorification of marriage is that when young couples do feel that they have found “the one” and have settled down, they expect a lot from the partners emotionally. Therefore, when problems arise, they are less willing to try to work things out with their spouse because in actual fact they are not ready for a marriage but are just drawn to the idea of marriage. This could be due to many reasons, one of them being the fact that married men and women are highly regarded in the society, etc, etc Oprah once said that there is a problem of couples being ready for the wedding but not for the marriage. I couldn’t have said it any better.
So I guess that I am almost a victim of the glorification of marriage. Why almost? Well it’s simply because I am not married yet am i? hehhe.. but when the idea of marriage pops into my head it is usually of a beautiful wedding by the sea, attended by the people I love and me looking radiant with red petals floating all around me. Ok I cant believe that I just admitted this to the whole world. It was supposed to be private.. oh well..hahahha..well I do set very high standards for my future spouse and some of the reasons are I think listed above..however..the thing about me is that I practice moderation. Something I guess which is emphasized over and over again in Islam. While I am not expecting to marry the next prime minister of Singapore, I am not going to short change my life for a partner below my expectations no?
Sheesh if my mom ever comes across this I’m sure she will have a long lecture ready for me for already thinking about marriage :P
Well well..heheheh..aniwei I think I need to dress up more for school. I’ve been only wearing shirts and jeans to classes lately and not to forget my enormous roxy backpack. Guess I’ve been opting for comfort over style lately so that I can carry all my stuff in my bag leaving my hands free to…..to…erm….i dunno..just leave my hands free I guess…hahaha…
Sighs I was actually going to write a whiny entry about my family..heeh…but since I’m on that resolution to not be a procrastinator..one of the steps is not to be a whiny person..altho I do do it to laila very often..ala who cares la! Hahhahah
I a bit penat la..and it has only been Tuesday..sheesh…
Adieu
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Adieu.
